How do I explain these ugly hives to a woman?

Not to mention how it looks

Okay my first post and I’m starting off with a doozy.
I miss sex! ….. ! Between being covered in a slippery greasy potion of anti-itch creams and feeling like I’m being hugged by a cactus…sex hasnt exactly been a feasibility.

Discussion

Herb Kris Dula
Yep agree… waiting for people who has some advice….

Holly Obrien
Herb Kris Dula I wish

Debbie Holcombe Johnson
Not to mention how it looks. Definitely not a feel sexy kind of look at all.

Holly Obrien
Debbie Holcombe Johnson Yup…not at all!

Holly Obrien
Debbie Holcombe Johnson My hubby has been very supportive. But I feel like a leper.

Nacho Espinoza
Yes, I feel like a leper. I’m single. And how do I explain these ugly hives to a woman? Crazy!

Holly Obrien
Nacho Espinoza Thats got to be so hard!

Nacho Espinoza
we should have a chronic hives dating site. I’d laugh but the itching hurts. Lol

Holly Obrien
Nacho Espinoza that’s a brilliant idea!

Michelle Denise
Ummm yeah!!! Right there with you. I kind of feel bad for my husband. I feel like I’m neglecting him, but how can I take care of him, of us, when all I want to do is use him as a scratching post!!!

Holly Obrien
Michelle Denise Yes! Sometimes I find a position in which the itching isn’t too bad so then I don’t want to move. Forget doing laundry, dishes, work or sex… I just want to stay frozen in that position so that I don’t activate the itching

Michelle Denise
Holly Obrien yep, exactly!!! Back in February, I had the hives and the flu. I was floating in a cool bathtub like a frog… cool water cause it didn’t irritate my hives, but I already had the chills.

Jillyn Allred
Heat made mine worse so sex definitely didn’t happen much. But I also felt like it wasn’t something I could opening complain about t my friends/on Facebook like other things.
Yet it’s just as impactful 😔
We had to try and take advantage of when the hives were not bad (I had them daily), then be more quick and at times I had to lay with a box fan on my body after to try and cool off quickly.
So sexy 😑 So so so thankful to be hive free after LDA Therapy.

Holly Obrien
Jillyn Allred Ohhh what is LDA therapy. I’m new here. 3 months into this fun journey

Jillyn Allred
Holly Obrien if you search the group with my name it should find a post where I share my story.
It’s a therapy that retrains the immune system to stop over reacting.

Holly Obrien
Jillyn Allred thanks

Jillyn Allred
Holly Obrien of course

Aaron Smith
I miss it too. Went through a breakup all because of this disease.

Holly Obrien
Aaron Smith Omg that is horrible! I am so sorry!

Nicole Hanni
Aaron Smith I am so sorry!!!

Aaron Smith
Nicole Hanni It’s ok it’s better this way. She deserves to be happy and at the moment I cannot make her happy. I will find someone someday. If not that’s ok too. There’s more to life.

Holly Obrien
Aaron Smith you sound like someone who has such a wonderful life View. I’m sure there’s someone out there who will love and accept you for all that you are including the hives

Aaron Smith
Holly Obrien I hope so. I hope I can be healthy soon so I can be useful because if I’m not useful I make other people sad worried or upset. If I’m not useful I can’t have romance in any form unless someone truly amazing exists and would accept me for who I am and who I will become.
All I want in life is emotional support and love from friends and loved ones because sometimes I feel absolutely alone hopeless and afraid.
I just came back from the ER today. I’m having issues with heart palpitations and very high blood pressure. Luckily my hives are in remission the past few years.
After what I went through just now I just feel like writing all about how I feel. I guess because I don’t really have an outlet for it.
Thank you for both for your kind words.

Nicole Hanni
Aaron I’m still sorry. But you do not need that stress over someone who did not care enough. That’s easy for me to say as I’m married but the right person would be there.

Aaron Smith
Nicole Hanni Thank you you’re totally right.

Kelly Butler
Is this really a thing?! 😯 I’m single so not really thought about it!

Sarah Lepsy
Are your hives better at certain times of the day? My hives were always terrible at night and better in the morning and beginning part of the day so that’s when we had sex. I definitely remember in the beginning scratching at my hives while in the midst of sex and being totally distracted by them while also wondering what my partner was thinking about me being so not into it that I’m just scratching myself. Lol. It’s been 9 years and he’s used to it now.

Holly Obrien
Sarah Lepsy Night and morning are the worst. Late afternoon is my best time. He is working from home right now so sex during one of his breaks could be fun.

Sarah Lepsy
Holly Obrien perfect! That’s a great break.

Holly Obrien
Sarah Lepsy Lol!

Jackie Herndon
If you can get over the not feeling so sexy part. Sex always helped me with the itching. I think it’s something to do with releasing endorphins.

Holly Obrien
Jackie Herndon makes sense

Nicole Hanni
If you can get over the itch and hurting part is great but then the mental part is the worst. Try and take advantage a of the better times